One thing I don't like about being a domme is the misconceptions. When I tell people about it, they invariably think that my job is beating men up. No, my job is to play psychological games. My clients want to be dominated & humiliated, & physical pain is only part of teaching submission. I have to set up the situation so that he feels completely out of control & at my mercy. It requires me to read his mind, know how much he can take & how far I can push his limits. Anyone can learn how to wield a flogger - getting into someone's head is a lot harder, although it's also much more rewarding.